You Are Not Body Positive If…

Here’s the thing, a lot of people focus on the sentence, “body positivity is for everyone” and then completely drop any critical analysis around what being body positive means. So I’ve written a post about 6 things that I have seen in the bopo community that aren’t body positive at all. In fact, some of these things are downright oppressive. I talk about the ways the movement can be racist, ableist and more. So if you really want to be body positive, make sure you never do any of these six things. Continue reading “You Are Not Body Positive If…”

Can Shapewear Be Body Positive?

Can shapewear be body positive? I know some of you have already decided that you know the answer and don’t need to read this, but hear me out for a second. Isn’t the desire to stop wearing shapewear exactly why body positivity was created, or at least one of the reasons why? Wearing it can’t possibly be body positive right? But is it really that simple? Given the body positive movement is so closely associated with feminism we need to prioritize freedom of choice for all people, but especially for marginalized people. We need to ensure that all women are allowed to make all the choices they want. So while for some, body positivity may mean ditching shapewear, for others it may mean giving it a try for the first time. Still, hanging this complex issue on the choice argument is not good enough. We need to look deeper than that.

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Why I Marched On Washington

As a survivor of sexual violence and emotional abuse from a narcissist as a child, Donald Trump (I’m not ever going to call him by that title) makes me feel physically sick to my stomach. I’m not being hyperbolic here when I saw the video of him stepping out of the car at the White House yesterday I felt nauseated. I felt the same way when I heard his comments to Billy Bush and when I saw him leering over Hillary’s shoulder in the debates. I felt it every time he interrupted a woman who was speaking and I felt it every time he projected his own behaviour onto his competitor. So much of his misogynistic and abusive behaviour was familiar and therefore triggering for me. I know I’m not alone.

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Requiring Calories on Menus is Dangerous

As of January 1, 2017, restaurants in Ontario, Canada are required by law to list the calorie counts for all food and drink items they serve. Technically, this only applies to companies with more than 20 locations so it doesn’t impact small businesses but does change the way things look at Starbucks, Montanas, and Mr. Sub, for example. Information has to be included on restaurant menus, smartphone apps, and on both in-store and drive-thru menu boards. They are also required to be able to provide the sodium percentage if asked, but it is not required to be listed prominently and as a result, most are not doing so. The goal of this legislation is to reduce “the childhood obesity epidemic” and improve overall health even though the evidence says the change that will come as a result is minimal at best. It is a particularly ironic reason for enacting legislation given how few food choices children actually make for themselves. In fact, they say that only people who already pay close attention to nutritional information will use these postings in the long run. Others will be shocked at first and may change their behaviour initially but will quickly choose to ignore the numbers. Therefore, those who are most likely to use this calorie information are those who are struggling with an eating disorder. That’s incredibly dangerous if you ask me. We are putting people’s lives on the line in the name of fat shaming. Continue reading “Requiring Calories on Menus is Dangerous”

3 Reasons I Am Okay With You Calling Me Fat

The title of this article alone is enough to strike fear in so many people that I am sure some of you are reading this post just to see if I have lost my mind. As a culture, we have been taught that being fat is a bad thing and that calling someone fat is never okay. It’s an insult that has been used to silence many so we avoid using it and choose euphemisms for the word instead, words like plus size, thick, and curvy. How many of us share the experience of being called a “fat bitch”, regardless of our weight at the time? I hear that comment at my current size 16 and I heard it when I was a size zero. I’m sure I’m not alone in my experience with fatphobic harassment. So why am I now okay with being called a term our society has deemed so offensive? I have three reasons. Continue reading “3 Reasons I Am Okay With You Calling Me Fat”

Can A Feminist Love Corsets?

Can a feminist love corsets? Does saying yes, make me a bad one? Is it more or less shameful to feminists than my love of kink and BDSM? Was the fact that I pose in my underwear and blog about it enough to make you doubt my holding feminist as a title? Which one would you insist should force me to give up my feminist card? Well, if you ask me, the answer is none. I truly believe that as long as one possesses a critical analysis of the things we enjoy, we are free to enjoy them. Continue reading “Can A Feminist Love Corsets?”

Old Navy’s Oppressive Plus Size Options

I was excited for Cyber Monday because I figured it would be the perfect chance to stock up on basics from my favourite source for leggings, Old Navy. Especially since they finally came out with a fabulous high waisted version of the compression leggings I’ve been obsessed with for so long. I buy a few pairs every winter and I wear them until the thighs are completely worn out. Unfortunately, they are often out of stock because they are so popular (turns out they must have been sold out completely and their website hadn’t updated because I just finally received my order today when their normal turnaround time is a couple days). In fact, despite me wanting to buy 3 of the high waist version, I was only able to get one pair and two pairs of medium rise. When I noticed they were sold out in XL in the mainstream sizing I popped over to the plus size section to see if there were any 1X’s available. That’s when I noticed some major problems with the plus size section. Continue reading “Old Navy’s Oppressive Plus Size Options”

Empowerment & Pussy Bow Blouses

Did you know the pussy bow has its roots in women’s empowerment? Really, it’s true! The pussy bow blouse was first seen as a popular fashion trend in the 1950’s with designers like Coco Chanel and Yves Saint Laurent popularizing a more masculine or androgynous look. But the trend really took hold in the 1980’s just as some women were entering the corporate world as an alternative to the tie worn by their male counterparts. Continue reading “Empowerment & Pussy Bow Blouses”

Femme Invisibility Frustrations

It was only within the last three months that I finally noticed other queer women checking me out (if I can be so blunt) without me first having to come out. I’m still not sure what caused the sudden change to be honest. As you can see, I am very femme, high femme if you will. I like to wear clothing items that society deems feminine like heels, pantyhose, lingerie, and dresses. I enjoy the way I feel when wearing this style of clothes and shoes, I do it for me, what other people think has no bearing on the way I dress. But what I do find frustrating is that as a queer woman, the choices I make in my wardrobe, makeup, and hairstyle often render me invisible. I’m the type of woman that has heard comments like, “you don’t look queer” on a regular basis. Continue reading “Femme Invisibility Frustrations”

Belly Love For All

Did you know that worldwide the most hated body part is the belly? Yep, if people are asked what body part they would change, the most popular answer is their stomach. People have been taught to envy flat stomachs and the people who possess them. Fitness magazines and diet advertisements have society believing that abs are the path to happiness. Well, I am here to tell you that that simply isn’t true. Since we have been taught to appreciate abs, we can be taught to appreciate soft bellies as well. Continue reading “Belly Love For All”