Here’s the thing, a lot of people focus on the sentence, “body positivity is for everyone” and then completely drop any critical analysis around what being body positive means. So I’ve written a post about 6 things that I have seen in the bopo community that aren’t body positive at all. In fact, some of these things are downright oppressive. I talk about the ways the movement can be racist, ableist and more. So if you really want to be body positive, make sure you never do any of these six things. Continue reading “You Are Not Body Positive If…”
As a former Queen’s University student it brings be a great deal of joy to see the future alumni doing their thing during their four years in Kingston. Some like me, will either stay or return in the long run, but others will move away after graduation and never return. So these are special times for everyone involved in the KAIROS show because for many it could turn out to be the only fashion event they ever produce together. I can relate as a person who joined the cast in several local theatre productions. So when I was given the opportunity to take in this charity fashion show, I jumped at the chance to cover it for you. Continue reading “KAIROS: A Fashion Show For Project Red”
You may have noticed that I’ve slowly moved away from having a strictly body positive blog and that I have been embracing fatshion blogging. The reason why is worthy of its very own blog post so I won’t get into that here, but what I do what to address are the ways fatshion blogging is body positive activism. I’ve noticed a certain amount of exclusion in the body positive community, and one of the groups that seems to be excluded is fatshion bloggers. Many of the most popular mainstream body positive activists don’t follow or promote fatshion bloggers, and yet many of us repost them and their photos regularly. I have a problem with this because I think it is yet another example of the body positive movement being watered down and not respecting or even acknowledging its roots. Continue reading “7 Ways Fatshion Blogging Is Activism”
As a survivor of sexual violence and emotional abuse from a narcissist as a child, Donald Trump (I’m not ever going to call him by that title) makes me feel physically sick to my stomach. I’m not being hyperbolic here when I saw the video of him stepping out of the car at the White House yesterday I felt nauseated. I felt the same way when I heard his comments to Billy Bush and when I saw him leering over Hillary’s shoulder in the debates. I felt it every time he interrupted a woman who was speaking and I felt it every time he projected his own behaviour onto his competitor. So much of his misogynistic and abusive behaviour was familiar and therefore triggering for me. I know I’m not alone.
It is interesting to be back in Kingston, Ontario because last time I was here I was extremely unwell. Both physically and mentally I was the sickest I have ever been. The last time I lived in this town was at the peak of both my anxiety and my eating disorder. I was admitted to Kingston General Hospital after presenting myself in the emergency room because I hadn’t eaten in almost two weeks. Continue reading “How I Finally Overcame Anxiety & You Can Too”
The body positivity and plus size fashion blogging scenes are full of feminine women. I’m one of them so it is nice to have a lot of company. There are activists and bloggers of all shapes and sizes. There are queer women and there are trans women who are both activists and bloggers. But for a community that claims to be inclusive of all people, where the heck are all the butch bopo and blogger babes? Continue reading “Where Are All The Butch Bopo Babes?”
Like feminism, especially in its early days, body positivity has a race problem. Think about the top 10 body positive activists, the ones with the largest social media following, how many are white? If you are picturing the same 10 that I am, you are probably picturing 8 white women, one racially ambiguous woman who never talks about racism, and one self-described racialized woman with light skin. That is far from representative of the world around us and very problematic. Body positivity needs to be inclusive of all bodies and that includes all skin tones. We can never forget that the roots of body positivity come from fat activism. Creating equity through social media activism means highlighting the images of people we aren’t used to seeing around us by making space for the bodies that aren’t usually represented in the mainstream media.
I had the pleasure of gaining access to the Third Annual Fat Activism Conference, a digital sharing of knowledge and empowerment. The first day was a short introduction to a very long weekend that was jam-packed with a diverse group of speakers. Kicking off the Friday evening was Dianne Bondy talking about Mindfulness, Body Equity, and Radical Self-Acceptance. As a fan of yoga and not just the asana practice but also mindfulness and self-reflection practices, I loved how Dianne talked about how much of the yoga community has also begun to embrace body acceptance. She described how yoga can actually help you learn to love your body by focusing on what it can do instead of how it looks. Her support of social media as an activist tool reminds me a lot of some of the things I’ve said about #SelfiesForSelfLove. I loved her critical analysis of the term body positivity, recognizing how often it is co-opted and used to sell us something, which is of course, very problematic. She also talked about how body positivity and fat acceptance are not always the same thing and how the latter is responsible for the current movement. Dianne addressed the concepts of thin privilege and fat phobia and addressed people’s defensiveness around these conversations. She talked indirectly about how size is a human rights issue and how people of size actually face real barriers, including to accessing health care, employment, and travel. Continue reading “Third Annual Fat Activism Conference”
I’m writing this post, that started with a tweet and turned into a shift in my mission. The tweet I wrote was “Body Positivity is to Fat Activism what Humanism is to Feminism. One is for “everyone” and the other recognizes that oppression exists. #fatactivism”. I’m tired of pretending like it is an equal playing field, to begin with, and I am especially tired of the “*all bodies” comments on my Instagram posts that take two seconds to celebrate fat bodies. Yes, all bodies deserve to be loved by their owners but fat bodies, bodies with disabilities, queer and trans bodies, and bodies of colour are the ones lacking representation. It is easy to find images of thin, able-bodied, white, straight people in the media, in ads, everywhere. We are even starting to see inbetweener and curvy bodies, but still only if they are straight, white, and able-bodied. So please allow me to focus on the bodies we aren’t used to seeing in a small, but ultimately feeble attempt to even out the playing field. Continue reading “Goodbye Body Positivity, Hello Fat Activism”
I am so excited to let you know that I’ve joined Leyah Shanks as an official ambassador for The Body Confidence Revolution. If you haven’t already heard of Leyah or her campaign. I encourage you to click on a bunch of the links I’ve included in this blog post so that you can learn more. I fist met Leyah online when she saw one of my early body positivity posts and asked if she could share my photo. I happily agreed and I started following her on social media. I love her posts because they are truly intersectional and touch on so many issues beyond what your average body positive activists are talking about. Leyah posts about the absurd idea that clothes are gendered and the idea that some nipples are okay while others are not, at least according to a large portion of our society and most social media rules. If you know my views at all, you are clearly seeing why a strong connection was made. Continue reading “Body Confidence Revolution”